Frequently Asked Questions
Finding the love of your life is a bit of a mystery to most people. So we understand you probably have some questions about what we do and how we operate. Here’s a list of the most frequently asked questions by our clients and potential clients. If you have a different question not answered below, give us a call at 248-218-5809.
What is Detroit Singles?
Detroit Singles is a leading personal matchmaking boutique with a proven track record helping discerning singles like you find true love - not online dating.
How does it work?
We get to know our clients inside and out, including exactly what you’re looking for in the right person for you. Next, our professional matchmakers take over and work their magic.
When a match takes place (based on both party’s individually expressed needs, wants and desires), introductions are made and the fun begins. In short, you go on dates while your matchmaking team works tirelessly behind-the-scenes to help you achieve your relationship goals.
When the time comes, simply let us know you’d like to put your membership on ‘happy hold’ because you’re having the time of your lives getting to know each other and you don’t want to be matched with anyone else.
What kinds of people use Detroit Singles?
Many of our clients are busy people who would prefer to leave their dating life to the experts, the same way you’d hire a personal trainer to help you lose weight, or see a doctor for medical expertise.
Other clients have tried online dating, unsuccessfully, and they’re looking for a better alternative without all the game playing.
Others have been out of the dating scene for a while, and - as a divorcee, widow or long-time single, love the idea of having a professional matchmaker in their corner every step of the way.
Whatever the case may be, all of our clients have one thing in common - a sincere desire to meet someone special so they can get on with their life with the love of their life.
How is Matchmaking different from Online Dating?
We could probably write a book about all the differences between online dating and matchmaking. In fact, we did just that recently. But long story short:
Online dating is a “do-it-yourself” endeavor where you must do everything all on your own - including knowing how to use technology, psychology and dating best practices to make your relationship goals a reality all by yourself.
Matchmaking is a “do it together” endeavor where we tackle everything as a team - including creating your profile, screening everyone in person and conducting background checks, making quality introductions, and providing dating coaching and encouragement every step of the way.
How much does Matchmaking cost?
All of our membership packages are fee-based. We offer a variety of packages that are fully customized to the individual, each with its own set of features and benefits depending upon a client’s desired level of service.
How many clients do you have in my area?
As you can imagine, our membership numbers are constantly fluctuating. Every month, new clients join and previous clients go from ‘single’ to ‘dating’ to ‘happy couples’ that no longer need of our services.
We understand that for most people, dating is a numbers game. But our focus is on quality, not quantity. After all, it’s not hard to meet just anyone. But it can seem downright impossible to meet the right person.
We’d love to meet you in-person and learn exactly what type of person you’re looking for. But until then, it would be next to impossible to answer this question accurately. And the last thing we’d ever want to do is mislead you.
How safe and secure is Matchmaking?
We take our clients’ privacy very seriously. All client information is kept on our private and secure database and will never be shared with anyone outside the scope of our matchmaking efforts.
Does Detroit Singles have a 100% success rate?
No, not everyone who uses Detroit Singles finds the love of their life. We do our best to help every client achieve their relationship goals. However, it’s important to understand that Matchmaking is a team sport, and that we cannot actually go on your dates for you.
Once we make an introduction, it is up to each client to put their best foot forward and make the relationship work. We are happy to provide ongoing dating tips, encouragement and suggestions. But everyone’s success is dependent upon their willingness to listen, learn new skills, try new things and trust the process.
As we like to say here at Detroit Singles, nothing changes if nothing changes. And all of our clients are seeking a big life change, otherwise they wouldn’t sign up for our services.
If you too are looking for a big change in your life, please keep this in mind when we ask you to take a leap of faith and trust us.
Can you guarantee me that I’ll meet the love of my life in 7 days or less?
No. It’s important to understand that Matchmaking is a process. Finding the right person for you can take anywhere from a few weeks (rarely the case) to a few months (more often the case) or more, depending on the kind of person you’re looking for and what qualities you offer that person in return.
What kinds of people have the best success with Detroit Singles?
We have found that the most successful people we match understand the rule of reciprocity - the fact that dating is a two-way street and who you are is who you attract.
If you’re not currently attracting the kind of people you really want to meet, the best way to improve your chances for success is to:
1) Think about the kind of person you’d like to meet.
What do they like to do for fun? How do they like to spend their free time? Ask yourself as many questions as you’d like and then use your answers to create a persona of the kind of person you want to meet.
2) Put yourself in their shoes and use your best judgment to determine what kind of person they might be looking for.
For example, if you want to meet someone that’s really fit, it’s a pretty safe bet that they are going to want to meet someone that’s pretty fit too.
3) Honestly assess whether or not you possess the qualities that the type of person you’re looking for is probably looking for.
If you do possess similar qualities, your biggest challenge might just be finding each other. Don’t worry, we can definitely help you out with that.
However, if you do not possess similar qualities, you have three choices:
Choice 1: You can choose to increase your chance of success by taking steps daily to become more like the kind of person that the person you’re looking for is looking for. If you choose this path, we can definitely help you out.
Choice 2: You can choose not to change anything about yourself and simply lower your expectations of the kind of person you want to meet to someone more like your current self. If you choose this path, we can definitely help you out.
Choice 3: You can choose not change anything about yourself and keep your unrealistic expectations, in which case you will probably be single for as long as it takes for you to experience enough pain and loneliness to realize that you and your unrealistic expectations are the cause of your own unhappiness.
In summary, we can definitely help you meet the kind of people you’ve been unable to meet thus far on your own. But whichever qualities you are looking for in a potential partner, you’d better believe they are going to be looking for similar qualities in return.